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lunes, 14 de marzo de 2011

Good Relationships and Awareness ( PART 2)

Setting Your Awareness

Think of awareness as a subconscious process running through your mind, such as a computer process that runs in the

background while you're checking email. You can activate your awareness by the simple act of intention. Declare or affirm to yourself that you intend to be aware of the health of your relationships by focusing on the seven components described above.

Awareness Affirmations

To solidify and strengthen your awareness process, try these affirmations.

I am sensitive and aware of what I say and how I say it, as well as being sensitive and aware of how I'm feeling about the overall communication.
I listen carefully and thoughtfully, absorbing what others say, how they speak, their body language, the emotions underlying their communication, and I'm observant of what is not being said.

Bring a Friend Along

Heighten your awareness by imagining a small creature on your shoulder who watches over what you say and what you do and whispers observations in your ear. Listen to your small friend and make mid-communication corrections if you recognize that you are being anything but fully supportive of the relationship.

See Yourself From Another Perspective

The Native American advice to walk a mile in another man's moccasins is good advice for anyone wishing to improve a relationship. Put yourself in the other person's shoes and view the relationship from their perspective. Do you like what you see and feel?

Relationships Take Attention

Give your ongoing relationships the attention they deserve by being aware of all the forms of communication occurring. Affirming your heightened awareness strengthens your resolve and reminds you of its importance.

viernes, 11 de marzo de 2011

Relationships and Strong Marriages

Being in a long term relationship with a significant other entails being together through the good and the bad, the successes and defeats, the fights and the resolutions. Relationships are at their best in an honest, loving, and authentic environment.

When true authenticity is valued in a relationship, the transparency created allows a couple to truly know each other and be known. This provides for true connection, but can also provide opportunity for arguments as each person honestly is able to share feelings and opinions. The level of connection is worth it, and developing healthy and life-giving ways of interacting within your relationship provides the foundation for a strong and lasting marriage.

Characteristics of Healthy Relationships

Being in a healthy relationship allows a person to journey through life with a life-long partner. Developing a healthy marriage takes work and intentional living, it doesn’t just happen along the way. Each couple needs to discover their own personal style of how their relationship functions, though most healthy relationships have some commonalities within them.

Strong foundation of friendship: You want your spouse to be the one person in the world that you can spend all of your time with, and someone with whom you enjoy spending your time. Laughing together, doing activities together, and supporting their work or dreams, all help to build a foundation of friendship on which a marriage can stand
Communication skills: Strong communication in a relationship is a key component of a strong and lasting relationship. Being able to talk through disagreements in a calm and loving manner is a good indicator of a healthy marriage. The freedom to be honest without fear of judgement, sarcasm, or being shut down is a critical aspect of relationships. Both people need to be valued equally and participate equally.

Shared activities: Building shared memories leads to a strong foundation in marriage. Participating in activities together unites couples whether it be taking trips together, going to classes together to learn new hobbies, or supporting each others favorite activities.
Conflict resolution skills: Having a strong relationship brings with it the need for compromise, to resolve differences, and the willingness to be flexible. You are not going to get everything you want when sharing life with somebody. Success comes when both people are willing to give up some of their desires because of their love for the other person and because of the best interest in the relationship. Selfishness doesn’t mesh well with marriage.

Dedication to Marriage Allows For Strong Relationships

There are many different characteristics that can be found within strong marriages. A sense of humor, growing up together, working for a common cause, shared religious beliefs, and common life goals can all help lead to a strong relationship. A strong relationship needs commitment, communication, and friendship, all of which provide a firm foundation on which to build a lifetime of memories.