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sábado, 9 de abril de 2011

POWER OF MUSIC

More than 7,000 runners who raced earlier this month in a half-marathon in London were under the influence of a scientifically derived and powerful performance-enhancing stimulant — pop music.
The dance-able, upbeat music at London's "Run to the Beat" race was selected on the basis of the research and consultation of sport psychologist Costas Karageorghis of Brunel University in England. He has learned how to devise soundtracks that are just as powerful, if not more so, as some of the not-so-legal substances that athletes commonly take to excel.
"Music is a great way to regulate mood both before and during physical activity. A lot of athletes use music as if it's a legal drug," Karageorghis told LiveScience. "They can use it as a stimulant or as a sedative. Generally speaking, loud upbeat music has a stimulating effect and slow music reduces arousal."
The link between music and athletic performance is just one example of the inroads scientists and doctors are making into understanding the amazing power that music has over our minds and bodies. Science is backing up our intuition and experience, showing that music really does kill pain, reduce stress, better our brains and basically change how we experience life.
Music reduces stress
For example, more and more health professionals, including pediatrician Linda Fisher at Loyola 
University Hospital in Illinois, are playing therapeutic music for patients in hospitals, hospices and other clinical settings to improve their healing.
"The music I play is not necessarily familiar," said Fisher, who is finishing up coursework toward certification as a music-for-healing practitioner. "It's healing music that puts the patient in a special place of peace as far as the music's rhythm, melodies and tonal qualities."
Studies done in the early 1990s at Bryan Memorial Hospital in Lincoln, Neb., and St. Mary's Hospital in Mequon, Wis., concluded music "significantly" lowered the heart rates and calmed and regulated the blood pressures and respiration rates of patients who had undergone surgery.
In 2007, a study in Germany found that music therapy helped improve motor skills in patients recovering from strokes, Fisher said. Other studies have found that music therapy can boost the immune system, improve mental focus, help control pain, create a feeling of well-being and greatly reduce anxiety of patients awaiting surgery.
Along those lines, music therapy was recently found to reduce psychological stress in a study of 236 pregnant women, according to researchers from the College of Nursing at Kaohsiung Medical University in Taiwan.
Women in the study who listened to pre-recorded CDs of soothing music for 30 minutes daily showed significant reductions in stress, anxiety and depression, said researcher Chung-Hey Chen, who is now based at the National Cheng Kung University.
One of the CDs featured songs such as Brahms' “Lullaby” and “Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star.” Nature sounds, children's rhymes and songs and music by composers such as Beethoven and Debussy were featured on the other CDs. The results are detailed in a special issue The Journal of Clinical Nursing.
Music makes life better overall
Scientists also have confirmed that music definitely provokes memories, as we all have experienced, to the point where we don't even have to hear a song. We just think of it and the memories flood in.
Music has also been found to ease labor pain, reduce the need for sedation during surgery, make you smarter, and diminish depression.
The right temporal lobe could be a key brain site for processing music, as one study found that subjects experience increased activity there when focusing on musical harmony. Other studies have also shown that the temporal lobe, in concert with the frontal lobe, is a key region for understanding certain musical features.
And while humans like to run to a beat, fish apparently also have their own version of this. In fact, the ability to keep track of time is fundamental to the behavior and cognitive processing of all living organisms, Mu-ming Poo of the University of California, Berkeley, wrote in the Oct. 16 issue of the journal Nature.
Among zebrafish, a neural “metronome” or biological clock may help them to remember rhythm over relatively long time periods, Poo and his colleagues found. When the beat stops, the fish apparently “remember” the beat’s rhythm and timing and often continue to wag their tails in time to it.

This finding and other research suggests that our ability and tendency to keep time with music is something we inherited from our earliest evolutionary ancestors.
More about music and workouts
For all you gym rats, here is exactly what listening to music does for your workout, Karageorghis said. First, it reduces your perception of how hard you are working by about 10 percent during low-to-moderate intensity activity. (During high intensity activity, music doesn't work as well because your brain starts screaming at you to pay attention to physiological stress signals).
Secondly, music can have a profound influence on mood, potentially elevating the positive aspects of mood, such as vigor, excitement and happiness, and reducing depression, tension, fatigue, anger and confusion.
Thirdly, music can be used to set your pace — Ethiopian runner Haile Gebrselassie reportedly has asked for the techno song “Scatman” to be played when he competes (he won the gold medal in the 10,000 meters at the Sydney Olympic Games in 2000; “Scatman” presumably went unplayed during the race).
Finally, music can be used to overcome fatigue and control one’s emotions around competition. The hurdler Edwin Moses, who competed for the United States in the 70s and 80s and had a 122-race winning streak between 1987 and 1997, used laid-back soul tunes as part of his pre-race routine, Karageorghis said.
The "Run to the Beat" music was played as runners at the Oct. 5 half-marathon event passed by 17 stations, not throughout the 13.1-mile course, because Karageorghis' research shows that music is most effective when we are losing steam, not as a constant stimulus. For the rest of us at the gym or on our a.m. jogs, he recommends two workouts with music to every one without, so the effect is not dulled.
Sports-music fusion festivals
Karageorghis and his post-doctoral researcher collected data during the “Run to the Beat” half-marathon, allowing them to test theories on thousands of live runners outside the lab.
Despite driving winds and heavy rain during the event, post-race interviews suggested that the runners found the music inspiring and fun.
In the future, Karageorghis envisions cultural festivals that involve a fusion of sports and music, where the crowd and the athletes are motivated by music playing at stations along a competitive route, while motivating one another.
“It is beyond the music,” he said. “The music creates an esprit de corps, a cohesion you don’t normally have in a mass participation event. One of the key causes of motivation is this notion of satisfaction of a psychological need for relatedness. Having music creates a common bond, a social gel, that allows you to almost satisfy this need automatically.”

jueves, 7 de abril de 2011

Financial Miscues in the Name of Love (PART 2)


Adam Levin, former director of New Jersey's Division of Consumer Affairs and co-founder of Credit.com, a consumer advocacy website, weighed in on the matter in an interview with our sister site, MainStreet.com and Colombian-match.com
"I don't know if it's ever really good to combine credit," he said. "I think it's a natural tendency that couples want to do it as part of the process of bringing themselves closer together. But I think that couples must always maintain separate credit files because death, illness or divorce requires that each member of the couple be able to stand on his or her own feet."
"So often the boyfriend or the girlfriend with the bad credit will say, 'Please, let's get a credit card together, it will help me build my credit and you would be so wonderful if you would do this with me,'" Cunningham says. "Don't do it. There is joint control of that credit card which means you may very desperately want him or her off the card, but your hands are tied if they won't budge. If somebody turns into a jerk, they can run up your credit, refuse to pay and nobody can force them to pay. They are off scot-free."
As an alternative, she suggests making that partner an authorized user of an existing credit card.
"Then you can kick that person off whenever you want to and you've remained in control of the card," she says.
Dragging in family members 
If it isn't advisable for one half of a couple to get tied into the other's loans and bills, it is even more dangerous to bring family members into the picture. No matter how well a partner gets along with the potential in-laws, introducing money to the equation is an invitation for trouble.
Even if they offer to help out with that needed loan, either by directly lending the money or co-signing, the help may not be worth the hard feelings that will haunt you if anything goes wrong with a repayment plan.
Leases -- for an apartment, car or business space -- are also fraught with hazard if a partner or their family is overly trusting in providing their John Hancock.
Moving too fast 
The American Dream has many couples dreaming of buying a first home and perhaps even starting a family. But realizing such plans can be too much too soon.
Make sure you understand that an asset such as a house complicates your relationship. Are you prepared to meet the cost of a mortgage payment, insurance and regular maintenance? Is your relationship on solid enough ground that you don't have to fear a messy divvying-up of assets?
"I guess the worse thing would be buying a house, because that's the largest amount of money most of us put our money on the dotted line for, and so many people outside of a marriage situation will buy a house together," Cunningham says. "Then you have the lack of a marriage, which sometimes makes it easy to bail on the emotional commitment, but it is still very difficult to then untangle the financial commitment."
Not having an exit strategy 
Love can fade as fast as it blooms. From teenagers to senior citizens, every new relationship feels like a sure thing -- until it isn't.
It may be a difficult conversation to have amid fast-beating hearts and fluttering eyelashes, but couples need to discuss what will happen if their financial arrangements outlast their relationship. That conversation may not be put to paper as a prenuptial agreement, but certain, very specific items need to be agreed to verbally and, if possible, in writing.
How will joint credit cards be treated? What is the plan for discharging jointly acquired debt? Who gets what physical assets? How will insurance policies be updated or investment portfolios unmingled?
Hashing out such details may not make for a fun date, but in the long run having those conversations may spare grief and uncertainty and, at the very least, make a split far less acrimonious or litigious.

miércoles, 6 de abril de 2011

The Ultimate Gift



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The ultimate gift you give to another won't cost you a cent. Put away your credit cards; you won't need them when shopping for the ideal gift. You already have it, it's a unique gift, and it's waiting to be given. The ultimate gift is your unconditional love.

The Ideal Gift

Unconditional love is an ideal gift because it also benefits the gift giver. Giving unconditional love can help you be happier, healthier, and live longer.

What is Love?

Everyone has love to give. It's an inexhaustible resource, the equivalent of being independently wealthy. The more love you give, the more you have. It never runs out. Love tends to defy specific description, yet is well understood when experienced.
Most of the world's religions espouse love, forgiveness, and generosity. Followers are urged to give with the promise of future heavenly rewards. Now scientific research studies support what religion has been urging. Scientists find that generous loving behaviors bring us benefits in this lifetime, too. Those who give generously with a sincere intention of helpfulness are happier, healthier, and live longer.

Stephen Post's Research Findings

A Christian Science Monitor web article of July 25, 2007 reports some 500 studies have shown the power of unselfish love. "It's abundantly clear from a number of studies that people who live generous lives also live happier lives," says Stephen Post, bioethicist, Case Western Reserve University.
The study findings include:
  • Generous behavior reduces depression and risk of suicide in adolescents.
  • Actively helping others during the teenage years promotes good physical and mental health all the way into late adulthood.
  • Volunteerism on the part of older adults significantly reduces mortality.
  • Giving to others enables people to forgive themselves for mistakes, a key element in well-being.
  • Praying for others reduces health difficulties among older adults.

Love is Free and Abundant

The fascinating aspect of love and giving is that it is within the power and ability of each of us. We each have an inexhaustible storehouse of love. We're born with a never-dwindling supply of love, like an inexhaustible bag of gold in a fairy tale. And the storehouse doors are easily opened wide with an action available to all of us--the decision to love unconditionally.
Giving your unconditional love is a freeing experience because it requires giving up your judgement of others. It involves loving others just because you've decided to love, rather than because of what another person does or doesn't do.
"To win at the game of love don't keep score," anonymous

Begin Giving the Ultimate Gift

Start your journey on the path of unconditional love with your closest relationship. It doesn't matter if this is a romantic relationship or a parental, sibling, community, or professional relationship. Decide right now to feel love for the person you've picked, regardless of their behavior. Focus on the characteristics of this person that you most admire. And keep those in mind even as you observe their idiosyncrasies.
Expand your decision to love unconditionally once you recognize the way it eases your life and boosts your feeling of well being. Then extend your gift of love to all living beings, human, animal, plant, and beyond.

Love of Self

One cautionary note, giving unconditional love does not mean that you submit to abusive behavior, verbal or physical. Loving yourself, too, means that you separate yourself from those whose behavior is hurtful, loving, but from a distance.




lunes, 4 de abril de 2011

5 Financial Miscues in the Name of Love (part 1)


True Love  means never having to say you're sorry. Or, alternately: "I'm taking you to court because you've ruined me financially."
When a couple is in love (or at least think they are part of something destined for "happily ever after"), the temptation is to share and share alike. What's mine is yours -- "mi dinero, su dinero."
Sadly, intertwined finances can be disastrous if the relationship does fray. In fact, money problems can be the source of friction that sours a relationship.
"I really think that people's emotions can override their common sense," says Gail Cunningham, of the National Foundation for Credit Counseling , the nation's longest-serving nonprofit credit counseling organization. "When you are in love you can look at life with rose-colored glasses if you want to, but don't look at your finances with them on. Make financial decisions with your head, not your heart."
The following are five ways couples can set each other up for financial woes:
Co-signing a loan 
On the surface, co-signing a Loan for your beloved may seem the right thing to do. Your partner might need to buy a new car or get a student loan. The former may be a necessity, the latter something that can offer a significant upside for your future together.
Be wary, though. It is not just your signature on a piece of paper. There are repercussions that can hurt your finances and creditworthiness for years to come.
Your significant other might be a wonderful person and seemingly responsible. But be honest with yourself: There is a reason they needed to ask for a co-signer. If it is because they don't earn enough to qualify, what makes you think they can handle an additional monthly bill? If past credit problems makes getting a loan on their own impossible, that may very well be a portent of how seriously (or not) they treat their responsibility to creditors and, by extension, you.
If your partner defaults on the loan, whether or not you are still a couple, you will be on the hook. Debt collectors will typically go after low-hanging fruit when they look to recoup money; if they think your former love can't, or won't, pay up, they are going to set their sights on you.
Not only will you have bill collectors hounding you, but your credit rating will suffer. Even if your partner does make reliable payments, you may feel a pinch. Even if it is not "your" loan, in the eyes of the credit agencies being a co-signer means it can be treated as such for your ratio of debt to credit.
Paying their bills 
In most relationships, one party will out-earn the other. Setting aside the prospect of bruised egos, there is an even bigger worry to be had.
Especially with young couples, one or both parties may be a bit immature when it comes to bill paying. Perhaps mom and dad always took care of such things. Or maybe there is the thought that your relationship is a trial run for marriage, when it doesn't really matter who pays for what? Well, it does matter. Couples need to carefully think about when, how or if they should pool resources into joint accounts. Before decisions are made, make sure to have a serious, detailed discussion about each other's financial history, future prospects and attitudes about spending and saving.

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